For the overall experience I still like Sharrow Bay but there are now a lot of places up there which can match it and perhaps even better it on food.
The restaurant I referred to in Virginia is Fossett's in the Keswick Hall hotel near Charlottesville. It's in the same hotel group (Orient Express)as Raymond Blanc's Le Manoir. Absolutely wonderful food with spectacular views over the Virginia countryside. They even have sticky toffee pudding!
I agree the Gulf Coast seems to offer better quality. We have a few favourites in Naples but nothing particularly memorable.
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