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mrsbabypowder
 USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline |  Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:45:47  
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Originally posted by floridadreamvilla.co.uk
A very brave post indeed and sober reading to some of those who are planning on moving out there. Thanks for sharing it with us - it can't have been easy.
i appreciate your words, it took a long time to come to terms with what happened and in a few years we will look back at it and laugh. but it is still raw - and it hurts. | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:47:35
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Originally posted by Mach 2
Elaine, thank you for posting, and Yes it was very brave of you
We had an offer to move over in 2004 as my husbands business at the time was doing some work in the US and we were told there would be lots more, and for a little while we were tempted but decided not too and thank godness as the work over there has virtually dried up and we would have been in dire straits
I wish you all the best once you get back to the UK, do you know where in the UK you will live?
All the best
Thanks Julie, We are moving back to Worthing Sussex, My sister who has a 3 bedroom house said we could stay there a couple of weeks to find somewhere to live. There are going to be 8 people in her house - gosh the tension,..... ahhhhhhhhhhhhh | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
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Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:49:21
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Originally posted by Cruella DeVilla
Elaine, I know it has been hard for you in the last few months and thanks for being honest about your experience.
hi CDV it has helped me to write it down to be honest. I will keep in touch and let everyone know what we are doing in the UK | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:51:37
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Originally posted by TonyBlenk
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
I sincerely hope your life will soon be back to a more positive outlook.
i am sure we will get our lives back to where we were before we moved to Florida. I pray every night that we will make something of our lives again in England. | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:52:00
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Originally posted by Nikki D
A really sad post, I hope you get your life back on track really soon. Sorry things went so wrong for you. Best of luck to you and your family for the future
Thanks Nikki | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
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Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:52:26
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Originally posted by Kazzie
So sorry that things did not turn out well for you Elaine. I wish you all the best once you return to the UK.
Karen
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 03:53:07
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Originally posted by owen3
Sorry it did not work out for you Elaine, but at least you gave it a try.
Barbara
thank you Barbara - we gave it our best shot | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 04:00:03
| Mr Frosty - my global mate. this is one friendship i will take with me. I met you on here, you bought my salad cream mmmmmm - and our friendship clicked. You and Kay are Fantastic. Respect where respect is due. well give it to me then...LOL see i can still laugh at myself. You better get the Fillet cooked well on July 1st. I love sweet potato's with butter, brown sugar and cinnamon on.......mmmmm. of course i have to eat to maintain my weight - otherwise i would be a size 8. and i can't have that.........i will bring the salad cream....
love to you and Kay
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Elaine62
 United Kingdom
245 Posts
Joined: 14 May 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 08:40:16
| sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you.
We found ourselves in a similar position 9 years ago. we'd moved to NZ, myself and daughter on a student visa, I was to train to be a primary teacher, and my husband on a 6 month visitor visa. We had friends there who assured us that as soon as Bobby got a job offer we could apply for a visa that would allow Bobby to stay. Well he did eventually get a really good job offer but when we applied to immigration we were told that as other kiwis had applied for the job then he was ineligible. He would have had to have been offered a job where no kiwis were willing/able to do it! Now he's not a rocket scientist so that would never ever have been the case. We had to come home the day before his 6 month visa expired.
We had moved all our stuff out there but couldn't afford to bring it all back (the packing costs were more expensive there) so we sold a lot in a garage sale. We came home to stay with his parents. We did still have our car, my brother had been asked to sell it when we left but never quite got around to it! We both got temp jobs within days so immediately had an income, albeit not very large!
we decided to buy an ex council house as we couldn't afford the detached type we'd previously had. my sister acted as guarantor for the mortgage which we refinanced once we got permanent employment. we came home in September and moved into our new house a week before christmas.
to be honest we were too shell shocked by what had happened to really think about how we felt but on reflection i don't regret what happened and feel that it has made us better people and now have stronger and sounder values because of it.
we no longer strive to have the perfect house like we used to. for us spending time as a family and that includes spending all our savings every year on our florida trip are the most important things that we hold dear.
since coming back things have not always been great, we've both been made redundant and had to find other jobs again. My brother in law died quite suddenly from cancer a couple of years ago at 45 and my mohter in law has alzheimers now.
The way i look at it is that if we were still there my father in law would have had to cope with all of this on his own, he only had 2 sons, whereas now that we're home we are able to be a real support for him and my daughter who really had very little to do with her grandparents when she was small is now with them every day as we couldn't afford the afterschool club she used to go to when we came home. She's 15 now and can't really remember it but likes to look at the home video now and again and laugh at her kiwi accent.
i don't particularly miss it as it was only when I was there that I realised that every phone call i made had to be planned. I hadn't appreciated how often I used ot contact my friends/family until I coulcn't afford to! Plus it was before internet use was in every home, it might have been different if I had been able to e-mail and webcam people.
My husband now reflects on it with rose coloured spectacles on only remembering the good times and insists that if we ever win the lottery he'll move back permanently, we shall see!
Anyway take heart from this, as long as you are strong together and you have a good support network when you get back you'll get there.
At the end of the day if you can say you gave it your best shot that's all that matters.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.
Elaine | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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chris c
 United Kingdom
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Ruth
 United Kingdom
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Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 10:19:26
| | Elaine, I am so sorry it did not work out for you. We gave moving over serious consideration but decided not to go ahead which, after hearing your story and others, I am glad we decided to stay in the UK. |
Ruth
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Cruella DeVilla
 USA
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Joined: 18 May 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 11:06:42
| Elaine, Can I ask you an honest question please about your experiences?
Did you have any experience in the bridal game before you bought the business and what made you choose that particular business, It seems to be such a minefield when choosing the right business, it scares the h*ll out of me!
I am glad you found someone to buy it in the end althought she sounds like a "right yin" as we Scots say.
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E. Cosgrove
 United Kingdom
5880 Posts
Joined: 26 Apr 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 11:29:06
| I am sorry to hear your sad tale Elaine. I love the US in general and Florida in particular and although I would love to spend more time there I could never be brave enough to pursue that dream ( I love the UK too much as well!)
My BIL has lived in the US for about 10 years now, he has a green card and 3 children who were born in the US but he is homesick and missing his family, so this year he has sold up and come home.
Everyone's story is different, there are happy ones and sad one's like your own.
I hope you and your family settle down again in the UK and that your fortunes take an upward turn. Good Luck! |
Liz
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 13:53:06
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Originally posted by chris c
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Thanks Julie, We are moving back to Worthing Sussex, My sister who has a 3 bedroom house said we could stay there a couple of weeks to find somewhere to live. There are going to be 8 people in her house - gosh the tension,..... ahhhhhhhhhhhhh
Maybe we'll meet up in Boots or M & S then Elaine!
I live in Worthing.
No lets meet up at the Maharja in Rowlands Road - my favorite Indian Restaurant | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
429 Posts
Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 13:58:11
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Originally posted by Cruella DeVilla
Elaine, Can I ask you an honest question please about your experiences?
Did you have any experience in the bridal game before you bought the business and what made you choose that particular business, It seems to be such a minefield when choosing the right business, it scares the h*ll out of me!
I am glad you found someone to buy it in the end althought she sounds like a "right yin" as we Scots say.
Hey, no i had no experience at all in the Bridal Business, i wish we had bought into FOOD. It is the one business that would make loads of money. A Subway would be excellent - i always had dreams of opening a English Tea Room. There is so much opportunity here, but you need money. And don't start talking to me about the taxes....ehhhhhhhhh | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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mrsbabypowder
USA
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Joined: 24 Mar 2004
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 14:02:00
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Originally posted by E. Cosgrove
I am sorry to hear your sad tale Elaine. I love the US in general and Florida in particular and although I would love to spend more time there I could never be brave enough to pursue that dream ( I love the UK too much as well!)
My BIL has lived in the US for about 10 years now, he has a green card and 3 children who were born in the US but he is homesick and missing his family, so this year he has sold up and come home.
Everyone's story is different, there are happy ones and sad one's like your own.
I hope you and your family settle down again in the UK and that your fortunes take an upward turn. Good Luck!
don't get me wrong i love it in Florida. i love the weather, the smell of dew first thing in the morning, our pool, our house, the afternoon storms if i could pick it up and bring it to the UK i would be as happy as a pig in s@*# | | Report this post to a moderator | goto top of page |
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julieanne
 United Kingdom
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Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 14:05:48
| Elaine, so sorry ro read your story
I wish you and your family the best of luck on your return to the UK and hope that you can rebuild quickly and be happy again.
Do keep in touch and let us know how you get on....
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florida4sun
 United Kingdom
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Joined: 16 Feb 2002
Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 14:06:25
| Taxes? Give me the usa tax system anyday. I really miss it
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Originally posted by mrsbabypowder
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Originally posted by Cruella DeVilla
Elaine, Can I ask you an honest question please about your experiences?
Did you have any experience in the bridal game before you bought the business and what made you choose that particular business, It seems to be such a minefield when choosing the right business, it scares the h*ll out of me!
I am glad you found someone to buy it in the end althought she sounds like a "right yin" as we Scots say.
Hey, no i had no experience at all in the Bridal Business, i wish we had bought into FOOD. It is the one business that would make loads of money. A Subway would be excellent - i always had dreams of opening a English Tea Room. There is so much opportunity here, but you need money. And don't start talking to me about the taxes....ehhhhhhhhh
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Cruella DeVilla
USA
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Status: offline | Posted - 22 Jun 2007 : 15:55:52
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Originally posted by mrsbabypowder
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Originally posted by Cruella DeVilla
Elaine, Can I ask you an honest question please about your experiences?
Did you have any experience in the bridal game before you bought the business and what made you choose that particular business, It seems to be such a minefield when choosing the right business, it scares the h*ll out of me!
I am glad you found someone to buy it in the end althought she sounds like a "right yin" as we Scots say.
Hey, no i had no experience at all in the Bridal Business, i wish we had bought into FOOD. It is the one business that would make loads of money. A Subway would be excellent - i always had dreams of opening a English Tea Room. There is so much opportunity here, but you need money. And don't start talking to me about the taxes....ehhhhhhhhh
A tearoom is something I fancied myself Elaine, mind you I would probaly eat the profits! |
CDV
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